Updated: Sep 7
On the 13th of August, 1983 I became a mother for the first time.
How my life has changed in 40 years.Three beautiful daughters later and so many friends of the girls that feel like my family too.
I feel so different about my role as a mother than what I did 40 years ago. As the girls have grown, I feel that I have also grown as a person as well. We learn from each other and our relationship changes as each year passes.
As a mother in my 20s, I would be so protective over my girls and although I did need some time away from them, I wanted them to be with me all the time. The relationship developed into an adult relationship of mother and friend. I think that I would have to describe it that way.
When my girls were teenagers and younger, there was still a certain responsibility to guide and nurture them. To be a parent first and a friend second, although the boundaries change, there are boundaries nonetheless.
I had a sentence that I would say to my girls on the odd times that I would have to say no to them about a situation that I did not feel comfortable with them doing, mainly if I felt that there was safety involved.
I would say:
"I would rather you cry now than if something happens to you and I cry."
Mario and I tried to always bring them up to be individuals with minds and thoughts of their own. We did not want them to just follow the crowd without thinking for themselves.
Sometimes this did come with its drawbacks and also open for some very interesting conversations.
I feel so happy that 40 years on, I can enjoy beautiful relationships with my girls and their partners and there are usually no conversations that are off limits. I could write another book about some of these conversations but then the book would have to come with a warning!! Read at your own risk!!!
All jokes aside.
I feel very blessed and honoured to have been a mother for 40 years and now another really beautiful time in my life as a grandmother. I am excited to help nurture the personality and character of our beautiful Drazic. We also have many other relationships to nurture with our New Zealand and Italian families and our great-nieces and great-nephews.
I Love, Love, Love my life, and these relationships
keep me young at heart.
When I was looking for the perfect quote that sums up how I feel about celebrating 40 years of motherhood. I couldn't go past this one.
HERE'S TO STRONG WOMEN.
MAY WE KNOW THEM.
MAY WE BE THEM.
MAY WE RAISE THEM.